How much is too little?
The answers to that question will affect the decisions women make as they consider their next partner, says an article in the Canadian Medical Association Journal.
In the article, published in the May issue of the AMA Journal, the researchers surveyed more than 20,000 women between the ages of 18 and 49, and found that men had higher levels of sexual desire than women, and the researchers attributed this to their higher levels and lower levels of physical attractiveness.
However, they also noted that the women who said they had had a lot of sex reported having higher levels than those who did not.
One reason for this disparity was that the participants in the study who said that they had a LOT of sex were more likely to say they were not satisfied with their relationship and they were more apt to report dissatisfaction with their sexual health.
“While it is not clear why sexual desire may be associated with a lower overall sexual health status in men and women, the current data suggest that there is an effect of sexual availability,” the authors write.
“Sexual availability may be linked to a greater ability to negotiate sexual and reproductive resources and more desirable sexual and partner-focused behaviours and preferences.”
For the women in the sample, they say that the results also suggest that men are less likely to be satisfied with women who are sexually available and more likely than women to be dissatisfied with their relationships.
The findings may help explain why many women, especially those in their 30s and 40s, are leaving relationships, and many are finding it hard to maintain monogamy, according to the authors.
“Many women who have experienced significant difficulties in maintaining a sexual and sexual healthy relationship may wish to explore alternative relationships or to pursue new ones,” the study authors write in their paper.
“However, for those who have not had any significant difficulties with their romantic relationships, the data suggest it may be more advantageous for women to pursue more casual sexual partners or to seek out a partner with less sexual attraction than they would otherwise pursue.”
This is an important point, the authors note, as “more casual sexual and non-monogamous relationships are associated with greater marital satisfaction and less marital distress.”
While men and females report different levels of satisfaction with their partners, it is the lack of sexual intimacy that leads to a decrease in the amount of sex a woman feels she can provide.
This is especially true for women who feel less satisfied with relationships than women who do not, says the study’s author, Dr. Linda A. Mennella, a physician in the Department of Psychiatry at the University of Alberta, and a researcher in the department of women’s health.
This means that if you’re a woman who wants to have more sexual intimacy with your partner, you’re probably more likely not to get it, Mennlla says.
“If you are a woman and you feel that you have a lot more sexual desire, it’s likely that your partner is more sexually available to satisfy that desire,” she says.
So what can you do to increase your chances of finding the right partner?
One approach is to start by talking to other women, says Mennelli.
You could ask, “Do you have the kind of partner who you can share your desires with?”
Another option is to find a partner who shares your values.
“Find a partner that you like,” she suggests.
And, she says, “Try to do things that make you feel good about yourself and that your sexual partner can relate to.”
That may include making friends and hanging out, sharing food and drink, and being kind to one another.
Another approach is seeking out partners who share your values and interests.
For example, a man might want a woman that shares his passions and loves to play basketball and has a lot to say.
A woman who likes to travel or who loves music might be the perfect partner.
And a woman with a love for cooking or cooking skills might be an ideal partner.
Find out more about sexual health in the March issue of The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, available online.
To learn more about reproductive health issues in the United States, visit the American College’s website at: www.acc.org/about/abortion/resources/abortion-rights.html and follow the hashtag #abortion on Twitter.